Acquired Motivation:ok, i know you really want to talk about this....
you really do.... you do...
ok, let's talk.... let's talk about it..
let's say, for example, that i like her... a lot...
ok, so, i have this wonderful, good feeling whenever i see her...
and i call this good feeling a "positive feeling"
now, say, when i don't see her, i miss her, and i have this sad feeling...
and i call this sad feeling a "negative feeling"
ok, now, if i see her again, i will be "double-reinforced" which means:
1) positive-reinforced by the "good feeling" of seeing her, and
2) negative-reinforced by removing the "sad feeling" of missing her
now, let's say that the relationship me <--> her becomes a dysfunctional relationship
and my "positive feeling" towards her diminishes
however, my "negative feeling" (of missing her) now becomes more intense even though my brain tells me not to see her ever again
i really hate that "negative feeling" and i am really scared of it
therefore, to be sure that i won't get that "negative feeling" again, i have to see her again...
how does this sound to you?? good explanation??
what do you think?
